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It’s not your fault. It’s your choice
Let’s talk about the choices we make and our inability to see them as choices.
Almost everything in our life is simultaneously our choice alone and a choice we make that we have no control over.
Everything you have ever experienced influences the choices you make today. You are not an island. You have not been raised in isolation. You exist as part of a whole, an ecosystem that imparts influence upon you each day with every Instagram post you swipe, every advert you see and every article you read.
Once you come to terms with this (that you are influenced by your inputs), you can begin to understand and acknowledge that everything is a choice.
I often receive very angry responses to this concept. People hate this idea because choice gives you agency. Once you admit to having agency you have to admit that you are acting upon your environment and things are very rarely acting upon you.
This boils down to choice.
You make one or another choice constantly whether you notice yourself doing it or not.
This means that we choose our priorities. We choose what we focus on whether we like it or not. No one else forces us to do it, even if that’s what we believe and what we tell ourselves.
